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Since last week, what have you learned about the theology of sex? What has God revealed to you through conversations and Scripture and promptings from the Holy Spirit?
I hope your journey has been a joyful one thus far and I pray it only gets better with each day of marriage!
I promised you last week that I would share the first 20 things that come to mind when I think about important concepts related to sexual intimacy in marriage. Studying Christian sex therapy, working with clients at a private practice, teaching on this topic, and now hosting a podcast where we learn from experts in this field has taught me one thing: there is always more to learn about God’s good design for sex!
I look forward to continuing the learning process about God’s mysteries of sexual intimacy. He has carefully hidden treasures in our marriages and I hope we all discover fresh new insights throughout our married life on earth.
For now, let’s envision this top 20 list as the best possible way to view sex within marriage. I am going to vision cast an ideal sex life, not to discourage you if this is not your current reality, but to encourage you to pursue health and healing and progress in this area so you do not miss out on the fullness of this wonderful gift God has given married couples!
As Leslie Vernick says, there is a difference between a disappointing marriage and a destructive marriage. I am only speaking to married couples who are in a safe and loving relationship. If you do not consider yourself to be in that category, please listen to this first (Biblical Response to Emotionally Destructive Relationships with Leslie Vernick) and come back to this article at a later time.
- A biblical view of sex is the best foundation! To learn more about this most important step, see Sex in Marriage, Part One. You can also listen to Enjoying a God-Honoring Sex Life.
- Sexual intimacy in God’s economy involves mutuality. Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner explain this beautifully in Enhance Sexual Intimacy. In God’s design, both males and females were created to experience pleasure, but never at the expense of the other person. When God’s Word talks about sex, His message is for the couple, not just the husband or just the wife.
“Drink and drink deeply, O lovers.” Song of Solomon 5:1b (AMP) - Hope is alive! Let’s speak to a few people who may be struggling to find hope right now. For the couple walking through an affair: I have witnessed a double portion of honor and joy restored to marriages that have been broken. After walking through an unbelievably difficult time, these marriages, when they put in the work and walk with Jesus, are often restored and redeemed by Christ. Oftentimes these couples experience a closeness that is not present in marriages that have never weathered difficult times together. Dave Carder teaches us more about this topic in Anatomy of an Affair. Geremy Keeton explains the double portion in Pornography Healing for Spouse, Part One and Part Two. And if you are currently sinning in this area and you have inflicted hurt and pain on your spouse, I urge you to follow what the Bible says and confess and repent. God WILL forgive you.
Therefore, confess your sins to one another [your false steps, your offenses], and pray for one another, that you may be healed and restored. The heartfelt and persistent prayer of a righteous man (believer) can accomplish much [when put into action and made effective by God—it is dynamic and can have tremendous power]. James 5:16 (AMP)
For those who came into marriage without a squeaky-clean sexual history, I hope you find comfort in this verse:
Therefore I tell you, her sins, which are many, are forgiven—for she loved much. But he who is forgiven little, loves little.” Luke 7:47 (ESV)
We love little when we have only been forgiven little, but God’s love empowers us to love much because we have been forgiven much. The Pharisees are a great example of this and Jesus doesn’t have anything positive to say about their self-righteousness. Does this mean we should sin more because grace abounds? NO! It just means we can then focus on gratitude, humbly recognizing we are blessed to be a blessing, and comforted to comfort others. God can give purpose to anything we offer Him.
But where sin increased, grace increased all the more, Romans 5:20b (NIV)
What shall we say, then? Shall we go on sinning so that grace may increase? By no means! We are those who have died to sin; how can we live in it any longer? Romans 6:1-2 (NIV)
I will make you into a great nation, and I will bless you; I will make your name great, and you will be a blessing. Genesis 12:2 (NIV)
Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. 2 Corinthians 1:3-4 (NIV)
So, hope is alive!
- Sex is not everything, but it is important! You can meet so many other relational needs in a God-honoring way through friendships and family relationships. You can enjoy conversation with friends and loved ones, give hugs to your children, and receive words of encouragement from your friends, while still being in God’s will. You can accept gifts from others and be grateful for the help friends offer you, while still pleasing God. However, the one delight you cannot fulfill outside of marriage and still be in alignment with God’s will is engaging in sexual intimacy. This precious gift is reserved only for married couples. One guest, Sharon Jaynes, says Satan loves a sexless marriage as much as he loves people to have sex outside of marriage. Hear more about her teaching on Discovering God’s Design for Romance. The bottom line is that I don’t want you to miss out on any goodness God has to offer! When you are in a marriage where you cherish one another, sex can cement you to your spouse in a thrilling bond with each other.
Come, my beloved, let us go to the countryside, let us spend the night in the villages. Let us go early to the vineyards to see if the vines have budded, if their blossoms have opened, and if the pomegranates are in bloom—there I will give you my love. Song of Songs 7: 11-12 (NIV) - Pleasure is worth the work. In case you missed the article, 10 Recommendations for Enjoying Sex More in Marriage, that is a great place to begin, and it has multiple podcast recommendations! Sex is such a delightful gift, and it requires participation and a willingness to pursue growth. Most couples will experience sexual obstacles at some point in their relationship, so it is helpful to diagnose problems and then solve those problems together. Enjoying pleasure can be a journey, but I want to encourage you it is 100% worth the work! Studies often reveal married couples enjoy the best sex of their lives after decades of marriage! But this comes with intentionality and a growth mindset. Listen to the episodes mentioned in the article listed above to learn ways to enjoy each other, just like the Bible says…ways old and new.
The mandrakes send out their fragrance, and at our door is every delicacy, both new and old, that I have stored up for you, my beloved. Song of Songs 7:13 (NIV) - Friendship with your spouse makes marriage, and sex, more fun: Being friends requires investing time into each other. When was the last time you had a meaningful conversation with your spouse? When was the last time you asked about each other’s dreams and desires and listened well to each other’s stories? Something that requires even less planning is to simply smile at your spouse! When was the last time you observed them while they were interacting with your kids or smiled when you were reunited throughout the day or winked at them across the room? These little gestures add up to big love deposits over time. When you delight in a deep friendship with your spouse, having fun with sex comes more natural. One of my professors put it this way: “Be playful, be playful, be playful!” Encourage each other and affirm specific characteristics and physical attributes of your spouse. Don’t stop flirting with each other once you are married, but do find out what sexual and non-sexual touches your spouse enjoys. For playful tips from a pioneer in the field of Christian sex therapy, don’t miss Dr. Douglas Rosenau’s episodes, Deepen Your Intimacy in Marriage and Natural Aphrodisiacs.
His mouth is sweetness itself; he is altogether lovely. This is my beloved, this is my friend, Song of Songs 5:16b (NIV)
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- Communication is the best place to begin. Some people find it harder to talk about sex than to have sex! But when we talk about sex, sexual issues diminish and sexual joys increase! Communication is the best starting place because it is required both in seasons of plenty and in seasons of want. The most helpful starting place is getting a book by a Christian author who specializes in this area (however, not all Christian books are recommended). Authors I have come to trust are Dr. Jennifer and Tim Konzen, Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner, Dr. Douglas Rosenau and a new book co-authored by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta, entitled Married Sex. For answers to common questions about sex, I would also love to point you to these episodes: Sex, Discussed Through a Biblical Worldview , Answering Listener’s Questions About Sex, and Making Love in Marriage.
Throughout the Song of Solomon, the male and female affirm every part of each other and verbalize all that they love about the other person. It is a great model for what our loving communication can look like in marriage! (See Song of Solomon, Chapters 1-8)
- Put some effort into discerning what is best for you as a couple. Do you remember using Venn diagrams in school? You draw overlapping circles to see where the common ground lies between the circles. We can apply this to our sex life by studying Scripture and filling a circle with all the sexual acts God approves of in marriage (hint: it’s likely WAY more than you think!). While you do this, you may notice certain areas where God’s will for sex in marriage seems more gray, rather than black and white. Discerning His will requires maturity and leading from the Holy Spirit, which takes us to our knees as we pray for clarity. Next, fill a circle with all of the wife’s desires and another one with all the husband’s desires. When you compare lists, the professional recommendation is to go with the more conservative spouse and encourage patience with the more liberal one while also encouraging confidence over timidity for the more conservative person. You can always shift around the lists for the husband and wife over time. When you look at the place where these three circles overlap, these are the best practices to begin putting into place in marriage! I hope you try this exercise and enjoy the rewards of your intentionality as you experience delight, pleasure, and learn each other’s desires. Before you begin, you may first enjoy listening to this episode: Turn Ons, Turn Offs, and Savoring Sex in Marriage.
Do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others. Philippians 2:4 (AMP) - We go after decision sex, not duty sex. Our attitude toward sex matters. In the same book referenced above, Debra Fileta encourages us to “see sex as an opportunity rather than an obligation.” We have an opportunity for connection through married sex that unites us as one relationally, spiritually, emotionally, physically, and even neurologically! For the spouse who has the lower sex drive, they can allow sexual encounters with their spouse to be decision driven, not sex drive driven.
For wives, oftentimes arousal is not present when sex is initiated. That does not mean you lack sex drive or that you are broken. Arousal and sexual response can come after stimulation begins. Desire can occur after the act of foreplay begins and arousal follows. Engaging your mind to be aware of every good feeling in your body and focusing your thoughts on the present experience helps usher in sexual desire. Therefore, decision sex is a choice to be receptive or initiate sex even when you aren’t yet turned on, knowing that is likely to come eventually. When you initiate or when you are receptive to your spouse’s pursuit, it can lead to arousal and enjoyment and pleasure. That is decision sex and it is the opposite of duty sex, which only chooses sex out of guilt or fear.
For husband’s attitudes toward pleasing their wives, attitudes of patience and presence often give their wives freedom to relax with a higher likelihood of experiencing climax. Debra Fileta writes on page 80 of Married Sex, “Because most women tend to need more time to get turned on than men, many women can feel like foreplay is a “chore” for the husband – and they’re afraid to complicate it more than they have to. The more they feel this way, the harder it is for them to get turned on. Your wife needs to know she has the freedom to take as long as she wants and that your ultimate desire is to pleasure her.”
I also want to introduce you to a couple who teach ways to have Healthy Minds, Marriages, and Sex Lives. While it is absolutely appropriate and ok to turn down a sexual advance from our spouse, it becomes problematic when this is always the response. On the other extreme, saying yes 100% of the time and failing to communicate your preference can also be problematic. This is where you have to uncover your heart issue: are you participating in duty sex? Duty sex is a sad narrative when a spouse says to themselves, “well, I better say yes because it’s my duty.” Decision sex can happen when the receiving spouse wants to say yes because they are offering sexual intimacy as a gift to their beloved. They may not require the same amount of frequency as their spouse desires, but they are deciding to say yes from a healthy place of knowing this is good for their relationship and enjoyable to both of them. This is a way to prefer one another over ourselves, but not slipping so far that we neglect ourselves. That does not benefit the spouse or the couple. Just like God gives us a free will, rather than forcing us into anything, so also we have a free will to choose when to be sexually intimate with one another.
You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love. Galatians 5:13 (NIV)
- Even the science of sex points to God. Have you listened to Francie Winslow’s episode entitled, Science and Art of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage, Part 2? It leads us to worship when we learn about hormones that our Creator put within us to enhance our experience during and after sexual intimacy. These hormones lead to monogamy, delight, and feelings of closeness. We discuss other benefits and scientific findings in this episode too, and I highly recommend it!
We know that Satan can’t create anything, only God can do that. Our enemy tries to pervert or destroy what God has created and called good, but God’s light ALWAYS overcomes darkness!
Through him all things were made; without him nothing was made that has been made. John 1:3 (NIV)
The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it. John 1:5 (NIV) - There are ways to problem solve during difficult seasons. Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner highlight these three hardest seasons: pregnancy/nursing, parenting teenagers, and aging or medical conditions in their episode, Maximize Sex During the Three Most Challenging Phases of Marriage. Notice I didn’t say these are the only hard seasons! These just seem to be three of the most common. Again, individualized care can help with your specific situation. Friend, there is more offered here and I don’t want you to miss out on any good thing! The Lord longs to be gracious to you! The Penners are experts who can objectively suggest ways to problem solve your own difficult season.
And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9 (ESV) - A little sex ed goes a long way. Understanding our genitalia, especially when there is difficulty orgasming, is profoundly helpful. Understanding that premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction are the most common obstacles men face at various times in life and learning about vaginismus and treatment available for females can change your marriage. Receiving pelvic floor help when you are experiencing physical obstacles to sexual intimacy actually works. Learning about sex helps us understand concepts like this one: often a turned on wife is the biggest turn on to a husband. One godly man in a loving marriage was a mentor to a couple of friends of ours. This mentor, who is more advanced in age, shared this thought with our friend before he was to be married, “It took me multiple decades to figure this out, but it transformed our marriage: care for her first.” This is not every couple’s preference, but it does represent the majority. We even see this order laid out in Song of Songs. I believe that is the advice from a large number of married couples because it works so well in building a mutually satisfying sex life. And sex lives where both spouses are pleased is likely to be one that both spouses desire to return to again and again. I urge you to put some time into learning because it is so beneficial! But where can you turn to receive appropriate, biblical, and accurate sex education? I think many people feel stuck, so I hope you share this article that is full of trusted resources! One of my all-time favorite podcast episodes on this topic is Fostering a Fun, Healthy Sex Life with your Spouse. Dr. Jennifer Konzen teaches so much about the specifics of how God created our genitals and my guess is that you will at least learn one new thing by listening!
I could repeat this on every one of these points: sexual issues are most often the symptom of relational issues (not always, just most often). They go together and they are hard to separate. Relational issues will eventually show up in the bedroom. Likewise, working on relational issues will oftentimes improve the sexual relationship for a couple. They are interwoven; to enjoy a rich and fulfilling sex life, a healthy relationship is reuqired in marriage. To enjoy a thriving marital relationship, sexual intimacy will be one of the key ingredients.
Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. Romans 12: 1-2 (NIV)
- Gender differences can be comical. If you remain playful, you may find it to be hilarious how different we can be as males and females. *Warning: this is stereotypical because we are going with what the majority will relate to* Most men want localized, direct, firm, repeated attention given to one specific area to become turned on. On the other hand, women value foreplay where you indirectly touch every other part of their body besides their genitals to get them warmed up to the idea. These preferences are opposite of each other! But think of what matures in us when we work together: patience, curiosity, selflessness, and then consider where it takes us: ecstasy! And this is the right kind of ecstasy – the kind God said we should drink deeply of! I don’t recommend getting drunk on wine, but I do recommend getting drunk on love because God recommended it first in the book of Psalms and Song of Songs! For more hilarious examples and helpful tips, listen to Dr. Juli Slattery in the Passion Pursuit episode.
He created them male and female, and he blessed them and called them “human.” Genesis 5:2 (NLT) - Orgasm isn’t everything, but orgasm is really important. Intimacy is all about connection, not only orgasm. In too many marriages, the wife admits to not experiencing orgasm as often as she would like. Sometimes she feels bad that she takes longer to climax than her husband does or she feels selfish if the attention is turned to her. The problem with this pattern is diminished interest of connecting over time. Orgasm was brilliantly created by our Creator God to reinforce the desire of coming together. It is important for the marriage when both spouses value one another experiencing orgasm regularly.
Also, some women have reported feeling content without orgasming during every sexual encounter in marriage. This may not apply to all women, so it is important to communicate with your wife to learn her preferences. For some men, learning this seems to be confusing or hard to understand. But when he only focuses on trying to bring her to orgasm, she may feel pressure and they both will miss out on the freedom and joy of intimacy, regardless of climax. It is always best to confirm this information with your own spouse, who you trust.
Some spouses are interested in sex for reasons beyond orgasm, such as experiencing feelings of closeness. Sometimes sex makes them feel closer to their spouse or they feel more connected when they are coming together regularly. Orgasm isn’t everything, but remember, it is important!
Women report struggling to experience orgasm more frequently than men. This could be due to relational issues, feelings of guilt and shame, insufficient stimulation, anxiety, or many other reasons. If the wife does wish she could experience orgasm more often, it may be helpful to recognize fatigue is listed as the #1 greatest deterrent for women to engage in sexual intimacy. One way to problem solve this as a couple is to make a list of obstacles and see how they can creatively problem solve issues, such as fatigue. Could the husband do more of the physical labor required at home or could he allow his wife to sleep in while he takes care of the kids? If your goal is to enjoy sex more together, then problem solving the obstacles is a worthwhile exercise! Just give it a try and see if you can help each other out! This requires maturity and communication, negotiation skills, and conflict resolution, but the reward is getting to the delightful phase of enjoyment together. Vickie George is another Christian sex therapist who elaborates on Gender Differences and Common Conflict in Relationships.
Likewise, some husbands report periodically taking care of their wife with oral or manual stimulation, but not entering her or finishing themselves. They view this as a gift and a way to honor their wife, just like she may offer a quickie as a gift to him. This is a decision that varies from couple to couple, so communication is the best place to begin. Remember the goal for sexual intimacy is closeness and connection, not just orgasm.
His left hand is under my head, And his right hand doth embrace me. Song of Solomon 2:6 (KJV) - Majority of women cannot or often cannot orgasm simply from intercourse. That may initially sound like bad news. However, God designed the woman’s clitoris and gave it twice as many nerve endings as the penis and its sole purpose is to receive pleasure. 20 minutes of relaxing, enjoyable and pleasurable touch followed by 20 minutes of stimulation is the AVERAGE amount of time it takes a female to climax. And God made this a very important part of the body, but each female may prefer a slightly different type of touch or change of pressure. Some women want direct stimulation to their clitoris after they have relaxed with foreplay and some may prefer indirect touch in the general area near the clitoris. Others may prefer to have clitoral stimulation during penetration that builds until they experience climax. And to keep couples close and require communication skills, the wife will likely enjoy different types of touch during different times of intimacy with her husband. What works one day may not be the touch she prefers the next time you come together. This is a beautiful gift from God because it requires the couple to be closely connected in communication and mature enough to express their desires. Pleasure is available when the spouses feel safe with one another. This requires a tremendous amount of time and care outside the sexual interaction. When couples are connected in all these areas, sex in marriage can feel heavenly and give us a glimpse of the goodness of God! Tracey LeGrande is a trusted person to educate you on Increasing Female Enjoyment During Sex.
Adam was made from dust, Eve was fashioned from a rib taken out of Adam. Both were purposefully created by God and both were created differently!
Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. Genesis 2:22 (NIV)
- Sometimes women have higher sex drives in marriage and sometimes men do. Regardless, it’s likely you won’t have the exact same drive as your spouse. If you don’t have an identical sex drive when compared with your spouse, consider yourselves normal! However, if this has become a source of conflict, check out Desire Discrepancy to seek understanding into the best way to steward your desire, even when it’s different from your spouse’s desire. Allow this difference to teach you greater lessons about compromise, serving, and receiving. God must have created us this way with a purpose in mind. Understanding our differences and learning ways to care for one another draws us closer to God in the process.
There is a time to diagnose root issues relating to why a spouse has very low or no sexual desire. It is always helpful to rule out issues with medication, depression, anxiety, relational problems, undealt with stress, or underlying addictions. It is also possible that a spouse may wonder if they have “low desire” because they are comparing their sexual desire to their spouse, who was created to experience desire in a different way. Oftentimes men express that they have a physically felt drive that draws them to their spouse and allows them to notice her and think of her sexually or envision her wearing nothing. On the flip side, it is common for women to explain they have more of a receptive desire where they are open to the idea when pursued, but the arousal sometimes comes after stimulation. Desire that is awakened after stimulation can be thought of as receptive desire, and this is very healthy and normal.
Francie Winslow talks about this in Sex in Marriage and Its Positive Effects with Francie Winslow, Part 1 and Part 2. It is wise to have conversations and work through our differences, but our difference in desire is not intended to be the main focus in marriage. Instead, loving one another is a great place to focus!
Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins. 1 Peter 4:8 (ESV)
- I believe orgasms are intended for all of us. Not every wife has experienced an orgasm yet, but I do believe it is God’s design and there is hope. Rarely does God radically heal you on your own. He is obviously capable, but that’s not His general solution. Oftentimes He allows us to participate in the healing. God has empowered pelvic floor specialists, Christian sex therapists, and sexual medicine experts to uniquely support people who are having difficulty experiencing orgasm. Just like we don’t DIY knee surgery, let’s also not DIY something as sacred and important as our sexual health! And here is one small tip: Women who discuss sex are more likely to be more orgasmic. That may seem scary today, but an eventual goal is to talk about sex with your spouse in a positive light. Sometimes this requires counseling first, and then you get an even better outcome: more connecting and more enjoyable sex together. Both spouses could also begin the conversation after listening to the same episode, such as Pain and Joy in Sexual Intimacy. Orgasms are a gift from God and you may be noticing a theme: I don’t want you to miss out on any good thing He has to offer you in your marriage!
Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows. James 1:17 (NIV) - Everything is permissible, but not everything is beneficial. We mentioned Venn diagrams earlier and topics that appear “gray” in the Bible. This verse is a helpful filter to run “gray” matter through. For instance, a certain sexual act may be approved by God and desired by one spouse, but if the other spouse has a history of abuse related to this act, it may not be beneficial to bring this into the marriage bed. Dr. Juli Slattery talks about themes like this in Holy Sex, which is an episode available to paying Patrons.
All things are lawful [that is, morally legitimate, permissible], but not all things are beneficial or advantageous. All things are lawful, but not all things are constructive [to character] and edifying [to spiritual life]. Let no one seek [only] his own good, but [also] that of the other person. 1 Corinthians 10:23-24 (AMP) - Need Practical Tips? Here is a hodgepodge of suggestions that happily married and intimately connected couples have found to be part of their formula for intimacy: dates, both inside and outside the home, scheduling a time or certain days of the week to plan to be intimate, talking about sex together, coming up with secret words or phrases that playfully communicate sexual interest, setting reminders to think about upcoming intimate times with your spouse, praying about sex, taking care of the wife first, learning about sex by asking God, researching Scripture, reading books, and listening to trusted podcasts . . . all of this increases likelihood of enjoying sex more together! Dave Carder also gives genius ideas for Protecting Your Marriage Against Unfaithfulness in this episode, which is available to paying Patrons. As the designer of sexual intimacy, God has the best ideas for sexual pleasure and we can always seek Him for wisdom in this area!
If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. James 1:5 (NIV) - Sexual intimacy in marriage is a picture of grace upon grace: How does the gospel apply to our sexual intimacy? First, Jesus died for our sexual sins. He nailed them to the cross and they are buried and dead and forgiven and forgotten, as far as the east is from the west, when we turn to Him and confess and repent. Jesus has a beautiful healing work to do in our lives and it can begin with surrendering our sexual intimacy to Him. I truly believe He is ready to do more than we could ever ask or imagine. He not only will restore our pain from the past, but He also has the power to redeem our current situation and allow us to experience a taste of Heaven on earth, through our special, intimate connection to our spouse. Dr. Mike Sytsma discusses how we can Remain Sexually Engaged Through the Years, which is available to paying Patrons. Don’t miss out on any good thing! I pray you seek Him today and apply one lesson learned from this article to begin experiencing Jesus’ grace upon grace! He does not want us to be alone, and if you are married, you get to learn more each year about the invitation to deeper intimacy with your spouse. I pray it also brings you to experience deeper intimacy with Jesus.
The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Genesis 2:18 (NIV)
I want Christian marriages to be amazing and I do think this is one little secret sauce that is recommended and designed by God where we are given a lot of freedom and encouragement. Let’s take advantage of all He is offering us! Let’s not miss out on any good thing!
Please know we haven’t covered even 5% of sexual intimacy topics here! But now it is time to apply what we hear instead of deceiving ourselves that we changed simply by hearing, so:
If you are an auditory learner, I hope you listen to the podcasts listed throughout this article. If you are a reader, I hope you pick up at least one book and begin reading it. If you need a third party to walk with you through this very important piece of your life, I recommend Faithful Counseling (10% off your first month of counseling when you sign up through this link).
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May you love well and not miss out on any good thing from God!
Sincerely,
Laura
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