Ten Date Night Questions
“This is my beloved and this is my friend,” Song of Solomon 5:16 (ESV)
This is one of my favorite verses about marriage! Date night is a practical way we grow in liking and loving one another!
What do you like to do on date night?
Moving around the U.S. gave us both seasons of plenty and seasons of want for date nights. Big cities offered many options while smaller towns we lived in had fewer offerings, so we connected through walks or searching for the best pizza around, or doing an outdoor sport together.
The common thread we come back to every time is this: Date nights are always elevated to the next level when we spend a portion of the time asking and answering intentional questions.
At the beginning of this year, our marriage goal was to show up for every date night with one intentional question to ask each other. It helps keep our marriage top of mind as we consider a new question throughout the week.
It’s also fun to share the context of how we came up with our question. That alone is a great conversation starter! Sometimes ours come from a lesson in Scripture, a talk with a friend, or ideas from a podcast. Every time, it has been a highlight of the evening.
This is a sample of the questions we have asked each other so far this year.
Date Night Questions
What rhythms or rituals did we do early on (in dating, engagement, or marriage) that were your favorite? Follow up questions: Which ones do we want to make sure we continue? Are there any we’ve gotten away from?
What do you want to make room for this year? Follow up question: What does that mean needs to go in order to make this a reality?
What is something in your life right now that is a gift from God, but you are not enjoying? Said another way: What are five things in your life right now that are from God? Are you enjoying them to their fullest potential?
If you could overhear conversations between others right now, what would you hope they would be saying is true of you?
What are your greatest strengths and who could benefit from those?
What is distracting you in this season?
Who are the most life-giving people for you to be around this year?
What are your current career hopes and fears?
What (specifically) makes it a good day for you?
Looking back, what emotion did you most commonly feel in childhood? Follow up questions: Do you have any guesses why that is? Do you have any specific stories or memories to share?
As always, I hope these questions inspire your own practical chats for intentional living!
Much love,
Laura
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